Effects of petting to men part V

Effects of petting to men Part V

This is part V of a new series titled effects of petting to men. In our previous articles we defined petting generally as the activity of kissing and touching somebody, especially in a sexual way. Soma zaidi.

We also said Petting affects guys differently from the way it does to girls. Today we are going to learn on one of the effects known as: Males have strong desire to prove their manhood. Soma zaidi.

Most men especially the youth feel the need to prove their masculinity (manhood) in front of women or even the whole society. (Mtamjuaje kama anaweza?) Most of them think that the proof lies in having sexual relations and lots of them. These aggressive guys enjoy driving to the other side of the town, where they are not known thus picking up a couple of girls. In their cars there is a lot of laughing, joking and crude or suggestive talk about sex and sexual relationships among such men. Their main objective is self fulfilment and enjoyment.

In these cases their primary concern is to enhance their own immature and shaky egos. They show hardly any concern about what happens to the female involved or any consequences following their activity. Even the physical satisfaction is less important to this kind of a person that the fact that they succeeded in exerting their masculine charm.

Important note:

This is common practice in Africa and other parts of the world. In African traditions a boy is urged to show his manhood. In the above cases individuals do show their manhood but in African societies parents and especially fathers argue their boys to prove that their real men.

In some cases a boy may even be check to see whether he is capable of practicing sex with girls. This is so because parents fear that their boys might suffer impotence thus the only way to measure their manhood is to tell them “nenda katafute wasichana”. Sometimes a father is furious “wewe mbona unapenda sana kukaa na dada zako? Mwisho watakupa mwiko upike. Nenda kacheze kwa wenzako huko.” All these are aiming to push you to the love and relationship channels. They want to prove whether you are a REAL MAN!

Take care and see you next time. (Itaendelea)

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