Friday, December 30, 2011

HERI YA MWAKA MPYA: HAPPY NEW YEAR 2012

NDUGU, NAWATAKIENI WOTE HERI
 YA MWAKA MPYA


Najua mtafurahi



Mtajua mtasherehekea


Najua watoto pia watafurahi


Wote furahini










Furahini kwa kuingia mwaka mpya wa 2012.
Shengilieni wote.

SAMOA LOOSES FRIDAY 30TH OF DECEMBER 2011

THE tiny South Pacific nation of Samoa will jump forward in time this week - all in the name of trade.
At the stroke of midnight on December 29, time in Samoa will leap forward to December 31 - New Year's Eve.
For Samoa's 186,000 citizens, Friday, December 30, 2011, will simply cease to exist.
The time jump back to the future comes 119 years after some US traders persuaded local Samoan authorities to align their islands' time with nearby US-controlled American Samoa and the US to assist trade with California.
But the time zone has proved problematic in recent years, putting Samoa nearly a full day behind neighbouring Australia and New Zealand, increasingly important trading partners with the island nation.
In a bid to remedy that, the Government passed a law in June that will move Samoa west of the international dateline, which separates one calendar day from the next and runs roughly north-to-south through the middle of the Pacific Ocean.
Under a government decree, all those scheduled to work on the non-existent Friday will be given full pay for the missed day of labour.
Initially strongly opposed by Samoa's opposition Tautua Samoa Party, the law to make the dateline switch won support after leader A'eau Peniamina told the nation's Parliament: "It's a change that benefits the people."
Prime Minister Tuila'epa Sailele Malielegaoi earlier said it would strengthen trade and economic links with Australia, New Zealand and Asia.
Being a day behind the region has meant that when it's dawn Sunday in Samoa, it's already dawn Monday in adjacent Tonga and nearly dawn Monday in nearby New Zealand, Australia and increasingly prominent east Asian trade partners such as China.
"In doing business with New Zealand and Australia, we're losing out on two working days a week," the PM said.
"While it's Friday here, it's Saturday in New Zealand and when we're at church on Sunday, they're already conducting business in Sydney and Brisbane.
"Today we do a lot more business with New Zealand and Australia, China and Pacific Rim countries such as Singapore."
It's the second big economic modernising move by the governing Human Rights Protection Party in recent years, following its switch to driving on the left side of the country's roads in 2009, another move to align it with the two regional powers.
Supporters said at the time the change made it easier for Samoans in Australia and New Zealand to send used cars home to their relatives. Opponents predicted major traffic problems, but they never happened.
So far, only Samoa's small Seventh Day Adventist Church has indicated a major problem for its congregation, which traditionally begins celebrations for the Sabbath on Friday night and continues through Saturday.
The Seventh Day Adventist parish in Samoa's Samatau village has decided it will continue to observe the Sabbath day on Saturdays despite changes forced on the church by the westward switch of the dateline.
The original shift to the east side of the line was conducted in 1892 when Samoa celebrated July 4 twice, giving a nod to Independence Day in the US
The date line drawn by mapmakers is not mandated by any international body. By tradition, it runs roughly through the 180-degree line of longitude, but it zigzags to accommodate the choices of Pacific nations.

Thursday, December 8, 2011

STUBORN WIFE CREATES AN ANGRY HUSBAND: INAKERA

In real life there are both stuborn husbands and stuborn wives. In our topic today we will concentrate on stuborn wives. It is true that a stuborn wife can make a very quite husband to change and become VERY ANGRY HUSBAND. This is why we are saying a stuborn wife can create an angly husband. This is true and the below example gives you the crue.
I am married to a man whom I sometimes refer to as "My Diva Man." He is a person who likes things a certain way. He can be quite demanding at times. However, he is also a wonderful husband who works very hard so that I can be home with our two beautiful daughters every day.
Unfortunately, this stubborn wife sometimes forgets that and stomps her foot and refuses to give in to him and what he needs.
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Let me share an example that happened recently...
We just started doing the South Beach Diet together. So, I need to make his lunch more often than I used to...now it's every day.
The other day, I could not find a container large enough to hold what I made AND small enough to fit in his lunch box without having to be at an angle. Well, I didn't think twice, I just put it on an angle.
Hata ng'ombe ukimuuzi huwa anakasirik san.
The next day I did the same thing. This time, however, he looked in his lunch box and got annoyed. He told me that the dressing from the salad got all over the container lid last time. He asked me what he was supposed to do. I told him to scrape it off. BOOM! He got angry. He said I did not care about him and that he had to go work all night and so on. I got annoyed and basically told him he was a jerk. He went to work.
The next morning I got up to make him breakfast and some food for his second job. I made a tuna salad. What I did not do was drain the tuna as well as he would have liked it and again he noticed BEFORE he even left. He was angry and annoyed and again said that I did not care about him and that I just threw his lunch together with no thought.

I got VERY angry and told him he was self centered and unthankful for the fact that I woke up and was nice enough to make him something.

We went back and forth for a few and he left for work.
Now, of course, my Dear and Wonderful Daddy in Heaven convicted me that day while my husband was working. He made me realize that I was the one who was wrong. I needed to be a help to my husband NOT a stubborn wife. I needed to love and CARE about what I was doing for him, not just throw something together and have a "It's better than nothing" attitude.
So, I apologized to my husband when he got home from work. And, he apologized for not expressing himself nicer.
My STUBBORNNESS and "whatever" attitude was a hindrance to my husband. It made him angry and upset. Thankfully I got past myself fairly quickly.
Unfortunately, many times, us wives remain stubborn for a LONG time and it causes our men to stumble .
The Word tells us VERY clearly to adapt ourselves to our husbands. Not always an easy task for this fallen woman! LOL!

Helpful and Cooperative Wife = Happy and Fulfilled Husband.
Hata hivyo hujachelewa bado una nafasi ya kuifanya familia yako iwe na furaha siku zote kwa kujizuia na kutofanya mambo yote mabaya ambayo mwenzako yanamfanya achue. Anza sasa, anza leo, bado hujachelewa.

Na mnaweza kuishi  maisha marefu sana katika ndoa na uhai pia. Happy marriage creates ages and ages


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Wednesday, December 7, 2011

HOW TO DEAL WITH STUBON HUSBAND

Question: I do not know how to deal with my husband. He is extremely introverted and very stubborn. When he gets stuck with his ideas he forces me to follow them, and I am unable to get my way at all. What do I do?
Basically, when he gets stubborn, I feel powerless to even explain my viewpoint. I feel frustrated and give up.
Response: There are a number of approaches you can take. In the worst case analysis you can accept that the situation is extraordinarily difficult. Then, rather than thinking of yourself as 'winning' by maximizing your gains, perhaps the best thing is to satisfy yourself by aiming to minimize your losses.
It is possible to take a more positive approach, however. You should examine your interests, prioritizing the interests that are most important to you. For example, perhaps you are more concerned about decisions about dealing with children, money, or issues relating to your personal independence. The issues that are most important to you deserve the greatest effort. You might want to be prepared to trade 'losses' on other interests or issues for 'wins' on the more important ones.
You also need to take a look at your BATNA on the various things that concern you. BATNA is your Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement. For example, you need to ask yourself whether your husband is the most helpful decision-making partner on a given issue. Perhaps a friend or relative can offer you better help or resources for dealing with a particular problem.
Again, taking a pessimistic view, perhaps what you need to do is consider marginalizing your husband when it comes to certain issues. Simply go your own way, to the extent you are able, and don't include him in the decision-making process. The troublesome element of this is that in some countries, there is great inequality between men and women -- and this may mean that your freedom of decision and action is extremely limited. But even in that case, being able to discuss things with friends and relatives, creating a personal 'support group', may ease your burden.
 
If your husband is threatened by interaction with other people, would he feel relieved if you were to become the spokesperson for the two of you in certain kinds of activities? If he says, for example, "The telephone company is impossible to deal with." perhaps you can offer to be the person who deals with the telephone company.
 
You also have to ask yourself a very hard question: is the relationship so damaging to you that it is bad for you to continue it. If that is the case, you need to examine your alternatives. If it brings you stress or health problems, even undertaking a regular program of meditation or exercise could contribute to a more rewarding inner life for you. I am not recommending divorce, but rather taking a look at how you can create a situation where you take power over elements of life that really only involve you and in which your husband has little or no interest.
When you do deal with him, listen closely to what he says. If what he says is not clear, keep asking questions to find out what underlies his approach. If what he says is unacceptable to him, respond with what Americans call a 'poker face' -- keep silent, don't respond, threaten him with your silence so he will know that you are not happy. Don't simply wait for him to stop talking and then let loose with a barrage of arguments. When he finishes talking you can say, "I want to make sure I understood you properly. Did you say 'x, y. & z'?" Let him know you are listening, make it clear the rules of discussion involve reciprocity: "I listened to you, now it is your turn to pay attention to me."
 
Ask your husband about the short and long term consequences of his decisions. How will this approach work in six months, one year, ten year? What results will it bring. Again, pay close attention to the things he finds most significant and try to design your responses to show that you are listening closely and understand his interests.
It sounds as if your life is extremely stressful. Rather than trying to change your husband, your first priority must be to build up your personal psychological, relationship, and even material resources.

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Tuesday, December 6, 2011

I LOVE YOU QUOTES

If I had to choose between loving you and breathing, I would use my last breath to say I love you.

You are the sunshine of my life, you take the clouds away and make me a rainbow every day. You're in my heart where you'll forever stay. I love you, sweetheart



All the love beats of my heart and all the heart beats of my love, beats for you and says "I love you". ~ Angel Mary George

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

WOMEN ARE VERY SPECIAL

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy.

So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, THEY'RE amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.


The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is “What does a woman want?”

A woman cannot be herself in the society of the present day, which is an exclusively masculine society, with laws framed by men and with a judicial system that judges feminine conduct from a masculine point of view.

There is in every true woman's heart, a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity, but which kindles up and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.

When women are the advisers, the lords of creation don't take the advice till they have persuaded themselves that it is just what they intended to do. Then they act upon it, and, if it succeeds, they give the weaker vessel half the credit of it. If it fails, they generously give her the whole.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

YANGA YAPATA WEBSITEIMTANDAO WWW.YOUNGAFRICANS.CO.TZ

Klabu ya Yanga ya Dar es salaam Tanzania imepata mtandao wake yaani Website. Mtandao huo ni www.youngafricans.co.tz
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Makao makuu ya Yanga

Pata video mbalimbali kutoka mtandao wa Yanga:
http://www.youngafricans.co.tz/video/video-library
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Wachezaji wa Yanga wakishangilia ushindi
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Friday, November 18, 2011

HOW TO SAY I LOVE YOU

"I Love You" is one of the most complex phrases in human communication. Or at least some days it sure seems like that!
It takes a second to say "I love you," but a lifetime to show it. - Unknown

The big issue of course is WHEN to say it. Is the time "right?" Most people worry if the other person feels the same way, and are either hoping or fearing if the other person will say it back to them or not. There are some links here to help you with those issues. Saying "I Love You" to a partner and having them say it back can be one of the coolest things in the world.

If you're looking to explore the universal language of love a bit more, there are tons of translations of the actual phrase in hundreds of different world languages.

 
And if you're already in love with someone, but you want to do something really special to let them know just how much you love and appreciate them in your life, there are tips and suggestions for different gestures and actions which express love and affection.