Marriage series: Phrases used by boys to win girls Part IX

Lines used by boys (men) (Kamba za wavulana kupata wasichana) Part IX

Wapendwa wasomaji wangu Once again today we are going on with the analysis of the commonly used phrases or philosophies which are professionally known as lines that are used by boys (men) to win girls (ladies) in courtship relationships. Read them.

 

Muhimu sana kujua kuwa:

These phrase and philosophies are used by men to win girls. The objective of publishing them here is manly to protect girls from lies of those clever men. The issue here should be that a girl should agree herself instead of being cheated and forced to agree.

 

The guilt approach

Under the guilt approach the common phrases include: “I am so tensed up that I cant stand it. You have led me on. You can’t stop now. I just have to get”. Hapa mwanadada au msichana unakuwa mtegoni. Pressure inakuwa kubwa mpaka unapata huruma (au pengine unaona it is ok nawe pia unapenda hivyo) unakubali bila kupenda. Ni pressure hiyo.

 

As a remedy, you have to say NO. (Of course if you don’t want it. In case you want it is ok with you). Note that it is not a must to have it. If he doesn’t get a sexual release right then, nothing BAD is going to happen to him! Ni janja yake tu. He won’t suddenly die because of that, or suffer any serious disease.

There are many other lines that are used by men from experienced to inexperienced ones. The aim of these series is not to produce negative image to men, no, I am also a man thus I can’t hurt myself but as profession we have to report reality in the field.

The fact always remains that is it the girl who is finally the most affected through pregnancies but also emotionally. To some girls these effects last for few years although to some girls these effects last throughout their life.

 

Uhondo (point to note)

Men when sexually aroused, tend to say anything to get what they want! Kwani uongo? They will make verbal commitments or promises which they mean at that time in order to obtain what the want. They do not consider this dishonest or lying when confronted later.

 

Take care and see you next time. (Next session will be on why girls believe men?)