FACTS ABOUT MARRIAGES AND DIVORCE RATES

BASIC FACTS ABOUT MARRIAGES AND DIVORCE RATES

It is the fact that marriages are very important in African an Tanzania in particular but in an obvious fact that marriages are the less studied knowledge in this part of the world. This means that most of the knowledge on marriage from Europe and American rather than from Africa.

A fulfilling and highly satisfying marriage can be the most critical factor in achieving happiness throughout life. A good marriage what I call a highly effective marriage can be one of life’s greatest joys and the single most important factor in making life worthwhile.

I know it is a dream for a normal man and woman to get married. Although pople like to get marred, it more difficult to stay married. Current divorce statistics (US) run at about 50%. When both partners are under the age of 21 or have dropped out high school to get married, the divorce rate stands at 80%. Mapenzi na mashule ni sawa na mrenda na pilau! Funny.

In spite of such dismal statistics, we continue to marry rapidly. And divorced people remarry even more quickly! Labda ni kuchanganyikiwa! 80% of people who divorce remarry with the first five years. And most of those remarry with three years of their divorce. Wana usongo! Unfortunately more that 50% of remarriages end up in divorce! Obviously we have a strong desire to married but lack of understanding about what it takes to make a happy marriage is a big big problem.

So why to we keep marrying when marriage is often faced with difficulties? The answer is simple, people marry for love. Ukipenda chongo unaona ni kengeza! People marry for relationship and intimacy. Even when it is widely published about divorce but people still marry.

Following divorce, people jump right back into another relationship and these new relationships stand an even greater chance of encountering serious conflicts that he first marriages. Marry quickly may seem like a quick way to relieve your pain, ( au hata kumkoga aliyekuacha au uliyemuacha, unamkomoa) but marriages on the rebound have a very high failure rate. It is highly recommended that people who have gove through divorce should have time to recover for psychological shock! Hapo pana kovu lazima upone! Tulia kwanza.

We must now all understand that regardless of the quality of your first marriage, you are partly responsible for is problems. You must realize this so that you do not repeat it. One way to prevent it is to acquire as much knowledge as possible about yourself and how you respond to relationships.

You can be among the groups mentioned above in the divorce rates. Of course in this Africa the divorce rates are not statistically known but they are not as those of Wazungu simply because of the African culture where baba is Kichwa while for wazungu baba na mama ni vichwa. Mtu mmoja vichwa viwili!

Take care and see you next time.