HONEYMOON FOR NEW COUPLES

This part of marriage and relationships starts with honeymoon and its related issues. This is to bring to you a taste of these topics. However in the future issues will be presented chronologically from early relationships to marriages.

Whereas wedding is a public affair, the honeymoon is strictly a private affair. It will present your first real chance to be alone as a married couple. The honey moon provides a period of adjustment and transition from singleness to wedded life. No matter how you love each other, your honeymoon should be planned in order it to be successful. Here are some tips:

·         The honeymoon must follow the wedding immediately. It is an experience that must happen now or never. Although it is not a must to take a honeymoon, to postpone it would defeat the purpose and spoil its uniqueness.

·         The honeymoon trip should last at least one to two weeks if you can possibly afford the time and money. Most people manage to find a week at least although in African and Bongo situation honeymoons take two to three days. In some cases honeymoons take even a day.

·         Plan your honeymoon budget. It other countries weddings are a family affair thus budget depends on the position of the family. In Tanzania for example, weddings are arranged by committees thus your honeymoon will be decided by the committee based on their budget position.

·         Plan leisure honeymoon. Avoid travelling distances that will make you tired. Imagine have a breakdown while in honeymoon safari. Inakera sana.

·         Honeymoon should be enjoyed away from family and friends. This will bring constant disruptions. Make sure that it is always it is two person affairs! (Ni kujificha na kutanua au kula raha?)

·         CENTRAL TO HONEYMOON EXPERIENCE IS SEXUAL INTIMACY. Your first intercourse will represent the consummation of your marriage. Your relaxed atmosphere of your honeymoon will allow you indulge your sex desires freely and with flexibility. For many couples the honeymoon represents a peak in sexual activity.

·         LEARN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN before your honeymoon. A couple need to study the subject of sexual fulfilment seriously just prior to marriage. DOING WHAT COMES NATURALLY AFTER MARRIAGE JUST ISNT ENOUGH PREPARATTION. THE LOVEMAKING EXPERIENCE IS AN ART AND IT IS LEARNED (Waulize Chinga ) NOT A TRY AND ERROR EXCERCISE.

·         Traditionally (kama maharusi wangekuwa “wanakutana” kwa mara ya kwanza) most brides can not provide natural vaginal lubrication during their honeymoon experience. Thus they are advised topurchase surgical jelly from the drug stores. Of course this is not the case these days as couples start doing it it “Kabla ya siku). However once the lady learns to relax completely , lubrication will take over and mambo yatakuwa tambalale.

·         Honeymoon dates should be carefully selected so that a lady is not in her days. Honeymoon is not a period to take of a sick person but a period to enjoy. When you plan your wedding make sure that the menstrual circle of a lady is well calculated and determine the good and safe days for your wedding.

·         POINT TO NOT: Research indicated that nine out ten brides do not experience orgasm during their first intercose