Marriage series: Phrases used by boys to win girls Part II

Phrases used by boys (Kamba za wavulana kupata wasichana) part II

Note: Because of the situation in the real world, it is sometimes to match literature and related photos. Maadili is a big issue in the society we are living. Further, English is frequently used to lessen the strength of Swahili words in which sometime they sound like matusi though they are ordinary words in English. Have a nice moment

 

As we have seen earlier, the role of strengths of lines used by boys forcing girls into premature sexual activities is probably stronger than most people realize. Here are some of these lines or phrases (nicknamed as kamba!). Did you use them? Did any of you girls face these lines or phrases? There are many of you who faced different kambas, learn them:

The situational approach

The common phrase or line for this type is “everybody is doing it, why worried.” These new morality fellows try to imply that there is something the matter with a female who won’t jump on the bandwagon, become mod, and live the way of the rest of the world lives. Maisha ni kufuata mkumbo! They accuse her of possessing Victorian ideas. “Times have changed”, they chant. “Live today and don’t look back.” They put such pressure on her that she begins to wonder whether she really might be missing something the rest of the crowd enjoys! She starts feeling that anapitwa na wakati! Take care.

The sympathy approach

Sympathy approach is very tricky and normally uses the phrase “nobody but you understands me! Everybody is against me-my parents, the school, the law. All I need is you to help me, and everything will be OK” Unaona ujanja huo?

It doesn’t take much for the average girl to agree and accept the offer. Whatever the case, be ware of these lines. This guy has mastered the technique of playing on a woman’s sympathies. Just as soon as you begin smothering him with sympathy he will begin preparing you for the pushover.

 

These kambas are many so we will continue to bring them there for you to learn more. Please note however that some of these are not real kamba but the theoretical approaches in building a relationship. see you next post.

Take care and see you next time. (itaendelea)