At what age should dating begin?
There are two kinds of age for dating to be considered, physical and emotional. Your emotional age reveals how mature are you. This is far more important than physical age when it come to dating. Some people at 13 year are emotionally stable are some gain stability at 18 years. In some instances, some 13 year olds behave like the 18 year olds! So it is really difficult to answer this question although in modern days some girls have delivered at the age of 10 year (the case of a Kenyan girl and many more in different places).
In one study data showed that girls reach puberty at 12 year while boys reach puberty at 13 years. In this study it was revealed further that a considerable number were dating and going steady before puberty! Hatari au salama? Parents who allow their children to date before puberty or in some cases even push their children into dating are behaving irresponsibly.
Data in most of marriage and relationship researched indicate that the earlier you begin dating the earlier you will marry, the greater your chances of becoming divorced! It is normal and natural for boys and girls during the early to mid-teen years to show an interest in the opposite sex. If they have no interest parents might really have something to worry. The emphasis should be on being together in a relaxed atmosphere that a few adults can properly supervise. Parents are urged to support such plans to provide kind of social opportunity.
Talks and conversation in dating
If a child wants to survive in the world of dating he or she should learn how to talk to members of the opposite sex. When initiating a conversation try to ask open ended questions. For instance if you ask “do you like pilau?” you will get a yes answer. Try to ask open ended questions like “tell me about your favourite foods” if you are one of those individuals who gets painfully nervous when talking with the opposite sex, try to forget yourself and think about the other person. This one hint can make an amazing difference as you relate to and are accepted by others.
How to ask for a date?
After you understand the basics of the conversations in relating to the opposite sex, the next most important thing is to know how to ask a girl out! There are basic things to remember and here are some of the basics:
1. Decide which young lady you want to date. She will be probably someone you find physically appealing. Think also of her moral characteristics
2. What would you like to do on your first date? A first date should be an activity that is easily acceptable to someone whose likes and dislikes are unfamiliar to you and that allows you to talk and understand each other. The easiest date in the world is to attend a movie! Hapa isije kuwa ya Sex maana itamfanya akuogope au aone una moto!
3. Where will the date take place? If you want to have dinners at a restaurant, you will have to choose the place as well as the time.
4. Get the facts. Get the time, date and place so that there will be no misunderstanding
5. Ask her. This is the trickiest part of the process because most of us fear rejection. Look for an opportunity to finds her alone and when there will be no interruptions. Many guys find it easier to ask over the phone than in person. Noma!
6. If she answers yes you have made it. But avoid acting very grateful. Ovoid becoming over joyful it will make her think that you have never had a date before. If she says NO try not to fall apart. Analyse what kind of NO she gave. Did she say No and that is final? Did she say please ask me next time?
Take care and see you next time. (itaendelea)
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